The Value of Singleness Once You Marry

Well, it's been a while... I've been getting certifications, re-opening my tea business (www.teazerts.com - shameless plug), meeting people through meetup.com, going on great trips, attending my son's college graduation and somewhere in the middle, The Victorious Single - GOT MARRIED! I wasn't expecting it to happen when it did, but it did and I've been married to my very best friend for over a year now...

Now of course, the obvious happens when you are no longer single/unmarried. You have an available and constant companion. You now share dreams, as well as have dreams of your own that will benefit the family (and of course the WORLD)! You realize the sacrifices you must make for the strength and health of the relationship and you make them, sometimes gritting your teeth. But at the end of each day, if it ends in a kiss and loving glances, YOU WIN! There are values of singleness that you bring into marriage though, if you made singleness work in a healthy way. You bring in self-worth, so your partner doesn't have to work too hard to validate you every day. When he says you're beautiful, it's not to boost your self-esteem and make you secure, but to just appreciate who you are. When you disagree, it's not taken or meant as a personal attack, because you are two healthy and conscious people, who want to not just survive, but thrive and add value to each other.

I'm so glad I had over 18 years without marriage, raising my son and planning my life. Being found by and choosing a husband that really loves me, in the right ways and who I can cheer for and celebrate reciprocally, is an awesome gift and well worth the wait. Especially because I was too busy living to realize that it was time for his arrival.

I will blog from time to time, because I am still the biggest advocate for living single victoriously. Any other way is just criminal. Love you.